EP167: Dr. Ivan Misner - Attract The Right People To Your Life & Business

Ivan Misner: We talk about it in the book as engines or anchors. Are the people in your life— are they engines? Are they driving you forward? Are they making you a better version of yourself? Or are they anchors? Are they pulling you down? The worst are the anchors with an engine attached. They're the ones that are dragging you down aggressively. And the funny thing is, they never think they're anchors. They say, well, I just think you're doing the wrong thing and I want you to do something different. But it's your life, not theirs, and you need surround yourself with engines in your life, not anchors. You're listening to The Successful Bookkeeper with your host, Michael Palmer. Listen each week as inspiring guests share their secrets of success to help you increase your confidence, work smarter, and build a business you love. This episode of The Successful Bookkeeper is brought to you by PureBookkeeping.com, the proven system to grow your bookkeeping business. Welcome back to the Successful Bookkeeper Podcast. I am your host, Michael Palmer, and today's show is going to be a terrific one. Our returning guest is the founder of the world's leading referral organization, Business Networking International, or BNI as you probably know it. Dr. Ivan Meisner, welcome back to the show. It's fantastic to be back. Thank you for inviting me back. I must have passed the audition. You definitely passed the audition, and you've been a request to have you back on the show several— I mean, it comes up all the time. And since you've been on the podcast before, let's, let's jump right into it. And I'd love for you to share about your brand new book, a relatively new book Who's in Your Room?

Yeah, yeah, it's less than a year old. And so here's the, here's the concept of the book. Imagine that you live your life in one room, and that one room has only one door, and that one door is an enter-only door, so that when people come into your room or into your life They're there forever. You can never get them out. Now, luckily, this is a metaphor, but if it were true, Michael, would you be more selective about the people that you let into your life? Oh, absolutely. That's what everybody says. So my question is, why aren't we more selective? Because I would argue that it's more than a metaphor, and here's why. What I'd like you to do right now, and, and all the listeners, everyone listening to this podcast, I want you to think for a moment about someone who was in your life, but